Self Development

How to Win an Argument

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Women nowadays are making their mark in every aspect of our society, be it in academics, in the corporate world, in the arts, and even in politics, which used to be seen as solely the province of men.  We cannot deny the fact that modern independent women are becoming more and more competitive in their respective fields nowadays. But unlike before, where physical strength is the measure of one’s power and abilities, today, the trend is more on word play, debates, and arguments.  Now is the era where women compete through the use of words, intellect, and skills in order to become successful even in this male-dominated world.  And in order for one to become a woman of power and win an argument, here are some tips:

How to Win an Argument

Be logical

Logical reasoning is necessary to win an argument.  In order for one to give good arguments and recognize the errors and faults in your opponent’s argument, you must master, or at least get acquainted well with, the rules of logic.  Logical reasoning will help you present proposals efficiently, think clearly and reasonably, and most importantly, organize your thoughts and words well into one coherent idea.

Read, read, and read

A well-read person is a well-informed person.  Reading is the best way to be informed and to be equipped with the necessary knowledge that you’ll need to win an argument.  Take time to read newspapers, magazines, self-help books, and even articles on the internet that can contribute toward your self-development.  All the information that you obtain can help you; for example, it can help you become a well-rounded conversationalist.

Don’t stop learning  win an argument

Learning should not stop upon your graduation or upon being hired for a job.  Every single day, you should strive to learn more about your field to improve your craft.  You’ll be able to defend your arguments well and perform your work according to the best of your abilities if you constantly strive hard to learn something new about your work and current career.  Even if you’re already on the top, don’t be complacent and stagnant; always strive to improve your knowledge so that you’ll always be the best that you can be.

Don’t hesitate to ask

An ample amount of humility is also necessary in order for one to become a woman of power.  It’s okay to admit that you don’t know something because it’s only through that humble admission that you’ll be able to learn something.  So if you want to reach the top, become a woman of power, and win an argument, never be afraid to ask questions. As the famous philosopher Martin Heidegger once said, asking questions is the beginning of knowledge and wisdom, and knowledge and wisdom are two important ingredients for an independent woman’s success.

Be confident

Even if your arguments are very good and very rational, without self-confidence, you won’t be able to win an argument.  You need every bit of confidence that you have in order to convey your ideas and arguments well.  Without self-confidence, you won’t sound believable and convincing.  So hold your head up high, make your voice louder, look at the other person in the eye, and stand straight and tall while making your point and while delivering your arguments.

 

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that’s one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.