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Tips on Avoiding Indifference

Tips on Avoiding Indifference
Written by Mae Davies
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Even though some relationship experts and psychologists argue that indifference can solve the relationship woes of certain couples, they are greatly outnumbered by experts who believe otherwise. This is why it is better to learn how to avoid indifference than to actually cultivate it in order to save a relationship. Here are some tips on how to avoid indifference.

Don’t keep grudges

Most of the time, indifference stems from unsolved problems and issues that you have against your partner. This type of anger can make you hold grudges, which can make you turn off all of your emotions and positive feelings toward your partner as time goes by in order to focus on your negative feelings. This is why it is better to have an argument with your partner than to harbor unexpressed negative feelings.

Don’t keep secrets

Whether it has something to do with your frustrations at work or the new hobby that you have been enjoying so far, you should not keep anything from your partner. People tend to feel indifferent toward people who they cannot share their innermost thoughts with. This is why it is important to share your emotions with your partner regardless of how menial or senseless they may be. Doing so will also motivate your partner to open up to you, which will help mold a healthier and happier relationship.

Talk about indifference

If you feel like you are starting to feel indifferent toward your partner, talk tindifferenceo him or her about it. This will make it easier for you and your partner to determine the reason why you are starting to feel this way and to solve the problem once and for all. This will also enlighten your partner regarding the issues that both of you might be overlooking or are not properly addressing and are secretly tearing you and your partner apart.

Lower your pride and ego

Pride is, and has always been, the root of most relationship problems. Similar to ego, pride can make it impossible for you to see that you have inflicted emotional pain on your partner. When this happens, your partner will start to feel indifferent toward you, which will then motivate you to feel indifferent toward your partner. Lower your pride and ego in order to let your partner in.

Consider the future

Any person who feels indifferent toward their partner is not happy. This is because a relationship that is marred by indifference lacks the romance, spark, and joy that a normal and healthy relationship has. Is this the type of future that you want to have with your partner in the future? Do you want to stay in a sad and unhealthy relationship for the coming years? These are the types of questions regarding the future of your relationship, which can make it easier for you to see why indifference is never the answer and why you should put more effort into avoiding this type of feeling.

Through these tips, you can have a healthy and happy relationship that is free from indifference and other issues that can be caused by this negative emotion.

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that’s one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.