Dating By Erin Lane / April 1, 2015 Starting up a conversation is never easy. It can be even harder when the conversation is with someone you have a crush on. But never fear. There are a lot of things you can do to ease that tension. Here are a few conversation starters. There are a lot of different ways to strike up a conversation. There are icebreakers, which you can use if you don’t know the person well. Icebreakers are a good way to get a person talking about something that matters to him or her. Be careful, though. You don’t want to come off as a snoop or someone who is over interested. Have your own answer to the question ready in case your crush asks you why you asked your question. You can ease the tension of the situation by stating you were thinking about the topic and just wondered how your crush would answer. For example, you can break the ice by asking: “Do you play any instruments?” and whether your crush says yes or no, you can follow up with what instruments you play or would like to play. A decision about instruments can easily lead into what sort of music he listens to, giving you not only the opportunity to find out what he listens to so you can check it out, but also to give him or her recommendations and find out what artists or genres you both listen to. Icebreaker questions that are good conversation starters are: Where did you grow up, and were you also born there? Tell me, what was the last thing you bought? If you want to relax, where would you go or what would you do? Are you fonder of spending, or do you want to save every time? What is the first thing you do upon opening your eyes in the morning? If you know him or her fairly well and want to get to know him or her better, a good conversation starter is asking about his or her past. It gives you a chance to know about his or her background. Knowing someone’s background can be a good way to understand him or her in the present. Besides, sharing memories about childhood breeds intimacy and closeness. Compare what sort of childhood you and your crush had. Knowing about his childhood can also help you decide if he or she is right for you. Just because you’re crushing on him or her, doesn’t mean the relationship will work out. Knowing what kind of kid he was and how he or she viewed his or her childhood can clue you in to what sort of person he or she is now and help you see him or her more clearly. Some good conversation starters that have to do with childhood are: Your most favorite childhood story is….? When you were a student, were you quiet or were you the class clown? Tell me, did you ever get into huge trouble at school before? Since fifteen to twenty percent of married couples met at work or school, another great conversation starter centers on just that. If you work together, then talk about the workplace. Chat about company policies or coworkers. If possible, team up for projects at work to spend time together. If you go to school together, ask about classes or teachers. Not going to work or school together is as good of a conversation starteras going with him or her. It gives you a chance to talk about his or her life, ask questions, and generally display yourself to be a person interested in his or her life. Some work- and school-related questions that can be used as conversation starters are: If I had $10 million dollars and decided to build my own company, would you work for me? Your least favorite job in the world is… What do you like most about school/work? There are a lot more ways to strike up a conversation with your crush. These are just a few. Be brave, get out there, and start talking.