5 Tips on How to Be a Confident Woman

By Mae Davies / October 16, 2014
5 Tips on How to Be a Confident Woman
Are you feeling insecure and full of self-doubt? Below are 5 useful tips on how to be a confident woman:

1. Fake it till you make it

Yes, practice makes perfect, and the more you put on a confident front, the more you will eventually embody confidence. ‘Faking’ it long enough will get you there. You’ll be surprised to know how many women are putting on a front of confidence while battling insecurities and fears inside. According to one successful woman: “It’s just like acting; the more you do it, the more you’ll get into the role.”

2. Let go of doubts

People may have been unkind to you or your parents may have been critical, but remember that all these outside factors are from the past. You can be in charge of your future by starting today. Believe in yourself; if you don’t, who else will? If you catch yourself having doubts or negative thoughts, release them. Remind yourself that you are worthy, and no one else can put you down unless you let them. confident

3. Overlearn

Notice how extreme your confidence is when you are when someone asks you your name or where you’re from? And how surefooted you are while answering those questions? It’s because you have over-learned this information. Anything that you are so familiar with, are an expert in, or are passionate about is where you’ll shine the most when talking to others. With this in mind, whatever it is you want to be confident with, overlearn it. If it’s about a particular industry or a topic you are to discuss with someone important, research and get familiar with it; that’s the best way to be confident about anything.

4. Have positive expectations

We have been taught to “hope for the best and expect the worst.” To this day, lots of businesswomen still go by this mentality, thinking that by expecting the worst, they’ll be ‘ten steps ahead’ all the time. You can be ten steps ahead of the game without expecting the worst; in fact, it’s becoming a trend nowadays with many businesses to have visualization as part of their strategy in reaching goals. One successful businessman said: “I had to convince myself that I am worth $100,000,000. In fact, I wrote it daily on a piece of paper in order to remind myself.”Another woman said about how her company grew so big: “The first thing I do in the morning when I get in the office is open my computer and view a slideshow of what I want the company to have and look like. I need to visualize because I know how powerful it is.”

5. Remind yourself of great times

We all go through challenging times, and sometimes we need to remind ourselves that no matter how low we may fall, we can recover from it, knowing our capabilities. Remember your worth and don’t dwell on mistakes. Instead, remind yourself of past achievements and let those times encourage you and motivate you to get up on your feet and not give up.

Hopefully these tips we shared will make you start feeling confident; remember, practice makes perfect, so keep practicing!

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.