When looking at the confident people that you can’t help but admire and want to be just like, you’ve to wonder: how did they get that way? Is there something they did that I can do, too?
Let’s find out. First we’ll take a closer look at confident people.
6 Traits of Confident People
If you want to know how to exude confidence, simply look at people who are already projecting and embodying confidence. You’ll notice these traits of confident people:
Confident and successful people have mastered the art of listening, as they know it’s to their benefit to have good listening skills. They know that they can learn from anyone, so they pay attention to you regardless of your position. “It’s simply a requirement if you want to be successful,” says one successful entrepreneur. “Never think that you already know everything you need to know. The person you talk to next may be someone who has an important message for you, so make sure to tune in.”
They engage you
One of the traits of confident people is that they not only listen but engage you in a way that you feel valuable and appreciated. Because they are sure about themselves and have nothing to hide, they genuinely want to connect with others and find out more about the people they get to interact with.
They also make the most of every opportunity that comes their way and not lose a moment and waste it by not giving it their full attention. They are aware that the most valuable resource is people, so they use this to their advantage by networking even outside the workplace.
They let others shine
Because they are secured and self-assured, they rarely see anyone as a threat and they allow others to take center stage and have their own moment to shine. Confident women don’t have a need to ‘hog the spotlight’ all the time; they know that there’s enough space for everyone, so don’t feel the need to compete in this aspect.
They empower other people
They cause others to be independent rather than depend on them, rendering them more empowered. They believe in themselves and want to pass that on to others, and they know that the best way to help is make these people independent as early and as fast as possible.
Causing a reliance on outside forces means you’re not forced to be creative and work with your own talents. Successful women are very helpful but draw the line where appropriate, as they know it’s not good for both parties to develop dependence between them.
They teach others
Successful people openly share what they have learned in the process of reaching the top. They are generous with their stories and what made them successful. According to one CEO: “ I see myself in my managers and see them really as my prodigies. I never hesitate to share with them everything I went through, even seeming ‘failures’ in the past. I know that those are the most valuable, as those are what they can learn from the most.”
They are not scared to fail
They know that big successes require big risks, and they are not afraid to fail. They have tasted both success and failure and know that there are lessons to learn from both. One of the traits of confident people is they take risks all the time and are rewarded by the insights as well as adding onto their strength and character.
Nothing builds character and resilience better than pushing yourself to rise up from a not-so-successful first attempt. They are also not scared of second, third, or fourth attempts or many doors closing on them. They know that optimism and determination can open doors.
Hopefully the points above will inspire you to embody the same traits of confident people. We definitely can learn a thing or two from them.
5 Tips on How to Be a Confident WomanAre you feeling insecure and full of self-doubt? Below are 5 useful tips on how to be a confident woman:
1. Fake it till you make it
Yes, practice makes perfect, and the more you put on a confident front, the more you’ll eventually embody confidence. ‘Faking’ it long enough will get you there. You’ll be surprised to know how many women are putting on a front of confidence while battling insecurities and fears inside. According to one successful woman: “It’s just like acting; the more you do it, the more you’ll get into the role.”
2. Let go of doubts
People may have been unkind to you or your parents may have been critical, but remember that all these outside factors are from the past. You can be in charge of your future by starting today. Believe in yourself; if you don’t, who else will? If you catch yourself having doubts or negative thoughts, release them. Remind yourself that you’re worthy, and no one else can put you down unless you let them.
Notice how extreme your confidence is when you’re when someone asks you your name or where you’re from? And how surefooted you’re while answering those questions? It’s because you’ve over-learned this information.
Anything that you’re so familiar with, are an expert in, or are passionate about is where you’ll shine the most when talking to others. With this in mind, whatever it’s you want to be confident with, overlearn it. If it’s about a particular industry or a topic you’re to discuss with someone important, research and get familiar with it; that’s the best way to be confident about anything.
4. Have positive expectations
We have been taught to “hope for the best and expect the worst.” To this day, lots of businesswomen still go by this mentality, thinking that by expecting the worst, they’ll be ‘ten steps ahead’ all the time. You can be ten steps ahead of the game without expecting the worst; in fact, it’s becoming a trend nowadays with many businesses to have visualization as part of their strategy in reaching goals.
Also read: How To Exude Confidence In Any Situation
One successful businessman said: “I had to convince myself that I’m worth $100,000,000. In fact, I wrote it daily on a piece of paper in order to remind myself.”Another woman said about how her company grew so big: “The first thing I do in the morning when I get in the office is open my computer and view a slideshow of what I want the company to have and look like. I need to visualize because I know how powerful it is.”
5. Remind yourself of great times
We all go through challenging times, and sometimes we need to remind ourselves that no matter how low we may fall, we can recover from it, knowing our capabilities. Remember your worth and don’t dwell on mistakes. Instead, remind yourself of past achievements and let those times encourage you and motivate you to get up on your feet and not give up.
Hopefully these tips we shared will make you start feeling confident; remember, practice makes perfect, so keep practicing!
5 Practical Tips on How to Look and Become Confident
I know a friend who signed up for a John Robert Powers confidence-building workshop many years ago.
She gained much confidence in the process, but it also set her back $2,000.
If you want to know how to become confident but don’t want to spend that much, below are 5 free and easy practical tips on how to look and become confident to get you started:
1. Practice in front of a mirror
Confident people are comfortable with themselves and how they look, so be sure to spend a good amount of time in front of the mirror making yourself comfortable with yourself. If you’re insecure about how you look, this will be apparent to people no matter how you hide it, so be sure to address this first.
Confident people also know when to smile, listen, and look other people in the eye. Practice your best smile and even other gestures while in front of the mirror; body language speaks a lot, so practice looking relaxed and calm as opposed to nervous and fidgety.
2. Watch your posture
Stand tall with your spine straight; nothing spells insecurity as obviously as stooping or crouching timidly. Some stretching exercises can help improve posture, but the important thing is to be conscious of your posture whether standing or seated. An erect spine projects professionalism and also implies that you’re attentive and respectful. Remind yourself constantly that you need to be aware of your posture.
3. Ask someone to critique you
It’s amazing how we tend to be unaware of our actions or how we come across; this is why it’s always helpful to get an outside opinion. Ask a friend or someone you trust to critique you, your posture, your actions, and how you project yourself in general.
Do you come across as timid or insecure? Which certain actions of yours were the dead give away? How do you walk, talk, or shake hands? Do you laugh nervously? Do you listen, cut off people mid-sentence, or talk all the time? Which areas can you improve on?
4. Read up on confident people
Who are the people you look up to? Chances are these people are both confident and successful. Read up on them and find out more about their lives. We tend to be more influenced by people we look up to, so let their stories inspire you and you can learn a thing or two by how these people live.
5. Observe confident people and their actions
If you’re full of self-doubt and feeling worthless and insecure, chances are you envy or are jealous of people who are confident and assertive. Instead of spinning into a downward spiral of jealousy and hopelessness, try to observe these people and find out what makes them become confident.
Look into their actions, what motivates them, and what other traits they have. Instead of being stuck in a negative thinking loop, be productive and pro-active by reminding yourself that like this person you currently envy, you yourself can be confident too. Spend some time with them and get to know them better; by observing, you’ll soon notice what qualities and traits they have that make them confident.
There are no set criteria of how long it’ll take for anyone to change from being insecure to feeling confident. But just like any skill, confidence can be learned and practiced. With enough diligence and resolve, you can adopt traits of confident people and start to become confident in no time.Lastly, I'm starting to tell other women about a health newsletter that I've benefited immensely from and that I highly recommend. I think you might like it, too. If you want, you can sign up here.
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