Achieving Life Balance

By Mae Davies / September 1, 2014
Achieving Life Balance

Do you feel that you don’t have control over your life? In this fast-paced world, how can one maintain life balance? Just think how a single woman can squeeze work, social, and personal aspects of her life in one big balloon called life.

In many cases, women are controlled by the day-to-day schedules. Women are trying to cope with the intricacies of work; they are also maintaining their vibrant social lives. Squeeze in other modular aspects of life and you get chaos. Perhaps you are one of these nameless women who come home late at night feeling tired and drained.

The rat race you need to follow day after day will take its toll sooner or later. How does one take control of the life balance? A change in the life balance mindset is the answer. It is not just taking a step back and analyzing what your life has been recently. It is more than that. However, there are things that you need to be coached on.

Life Balance Lesson Number 1: Free Doesn’t Mean Available

Imagine this scenario:

Your friend wants to meet you. You check your calendar. You see that there is one part of a day that is free. You say yes to your friend. Later, you realize that that time is the only time for you to settle some errands. You feel guilty cancelling your appointment with your friend. Yet, you also feel that that time should have been reserved for some down time.

One thing you need to remember is that having free time does not mean that you need to spend it with somebody else. Saying no once in a while to do some more me-time is more vital to achieving life balance.

Life Balance Lesson Number 2: Prioritize what is on the calendar life balance

Oftentimes, you just cannot accomplish some other important tasks because there are other activities that keep on interrupting them. For example, how long have you been dreaming of that Cancun vacation? You have always wanted to do that, but it seems that a lot of things continue to get in the way of actually realizing that dream.

Instead of making your dream vacation or some other important decisions slip through, try micromanaging everything. For example, list the daily things you want to accomplish. Also, list what you want to do during the week and even the month. Of course, there are inevitable instances that you have to encounter. If these things happen, you have to follow what has been scheduled.

This means that you can do those inconveniences and move some other tasks to accommodate everything. Don’t drop your schedule altogether. Reschedule it.

The 2 Week Diet

Life balances depend on your choices. These choices should be done consciously and diligently. Think about where you need more time for yourself. Adjust your schedule to that time. If you have to think out of the box to accomplish those things, feel free to do so. What do you think?

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.