Being Single: How to Learn to do a Man’s Job

Being Single: How to Learn to do a Man’s Job
There are days when I love being single, days when I want to cuddle with someone, days when I just want to be alone, and days when I wish I had a man in my life who could help me fix the broken door knob or the leaking kitchen pipe. Being single can be quite complicated: “I want this; I want that.” What is it that I really want?

First of all, I don’t really need a man. I take that back. I just need to learn how to perform a man’s job; you know, the usual: replace a flat tire, fix a leaking sink, assemble a bookshelf, and repair a broken doorknob (just to name a few things). A single woman like me needs to know how to do these things so that next time I won’t have to keep wishing that I wasn’t single.


Reading can take you places, so why not buy a book, sit back, relax, and open up your mind to learn and absorb the words from the pages of the book. How-to and instructional books are available in bookstores, libraries, and also online. Most men don’t usually like to read instructional manuals because they think it’ll lower their masculinity. Don’t take their word for it; reading helps, and you could eventually be better at fixing a leaking sink than them.


For those visual learners, watching YouTube videos is an excellent way to learn how to replace a flat tire or how to attach a new doorknob in just minutes.  Listening and watching an actual person perform the specific task can really help you learn how to fix what’s broken or needs repairing (who needs a man when you’ve got YouTube videos to teach you, right?).


One of the most important things we can do is listen. Nowadays, people tend to just talk and talk without actually listening. If we listened more than talked, we would learn something new more often. Listening to instructional Audio CDs and cassette tapes (if they still exist) can also be of help when trying to learn how to do a man’s work. Closely listening to these audio CDs and tapes illustrates how to perform certain steps in the procedure.


What better way to learn how to fix, make, replace, and repair something than from a man himself? Choose sensibly, though. Don’t just pick a random man of course; choose one who is wise and knows his way around the house – not a man who thinks he does. Getting a one-on-one tutorial from an expert can help you learn, make mistakes, and then receive feedback as well as a few tips and tricks.

Learning is simple if you just put all your efforts into it. Most men didn’t learn to do something right away; it probably took them a couple of tries until they got something right. With today’s technology, a single woman can conveniently turn on her television or computer, or flip through the pages of her book in order to learn something new.

A single woman can survive on her own, with little or no help from a man. Singlehood is a great way for a woman to learn something new, expand her knowledge, and discover a talent that she never really thought she had.

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.