What most people don’t realize is that these couples can suffer from serious problems that can often directly cause a breakup or worse, a long and unhappy long term relationship.
This is why it’s a good idea to know more about the common problems that can be quite unique to those who are in long term relationships in order for them to be resolved.
Here are some of these problems.
Lack of Intimacy
Blame it on humanity’s nature to find new things alluring and exciting or the propensity of people to grow tired of doing the same thing over and over again for a long period of time. Lack of intimacy can plague even the most beautiful of couples, especially if they have been together for a long time.
When this happens, couples often find themselves seeking intimacy from others, hence the infidelity.
To avoid this problem, physical attraction should be maintained. Hence, people who are in the relationship should keep trying to look good for their partner. They should also take the time to go on dates and actually have an actual sexual relationship despite having a busy schedule or any other reason.
Lack of Interest and Boredom
Because of the fact that they have been together for so long, couples who are in a long term relationship have talked about anything and everything under the sun. This is why they start to run out of things to talk about during their dates and other occasions in which having an actual and fun conversation is a must.
When this happens, they begin to lose interest in sharing new experiences with each other since they no longer know how to hold a proper conversation with each other. At this point, boredom is also imminent. From this point on, the relationship can degrade at a very fast rate.
To avoid this problem, couples should try to find new hobbies that they will both enjoy. They should also start discovering new things, such as new restaurants or new genres of music, in order to find something new to talk about. From this point on, they will find it easier to rebuild the bridge of communication that may have been destroyed.
Couples who’ve been together for so long know every mole on each other’s body as well as every insecurity and unhappiness that the other person might be feeling.
It’s because of these feelings that the other person might feel critical about his or her performance in the relationship.
They live in the constant fear that they are not performing up to their partner’s standards. This fear turns into paranoia that they might break up at anytime. When this happens, jealousy and other issues can arise.
The best way to avoid this problem is to work on having a more open relationship. This type of relationship ensures that partners can effectively communicate what they are feeling and that they don’t start thinking that they are not meeting the other person’s needs, hence preventing the paranoia and the successive negative feelings.
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