How to Become More Likable

By Mae Davies / August 20, 2014
How to Become More Likable

Hve you ever wanted to become a social person?  The one who seems to be always the center of attention and the one who can easily get along with everyone?  Have you ever dreamed of becoming like a little ray of sunshine?  That whenever you’re around, the room would just look brighter because of your presence? Most women really want to be attractive and become more likable in the eyes of others.  This is not being vain; it’s just in our nature that we want to be recognized and appreciated by everyone around us; especially the people who matter most in our lives.  And wanting to be liked by everyone is a good thing, which if achieved, can make our lives become more wonderful.

Smile and be happy

It’s really easy to like a person who always smiles and has a happy disposition.  People are not really fond of being with a pessimistic person, or with someone whose hobby is to sulk, or with someone who has a bad temper.  For sure, they would rather be with an optimistic person who also smiles and laughs often.
This is because a smiling person or one who laughs often also encourages laughter from others.  Remember that your simple smile can truly brighten other people’s day – which is why, if you would tend to smile more often, people would like you more because you’dappear to be more approachable to them.  So just keep smiling and be happy always!

Don’t be a bitch

Having a mean attitude won’t help you to become more likable.  Who would want to be with a woman who is disrespectful, who backbites others and is not even friendly at all? 
In order to be amiable, always show respect and courtesy to other people.  Don’t be quick to judge and to discriminate against others; instead, be polite and understanding.  Let other people feel welcome and appreciated and be kind to them.  Remember, your etiquette and manners matter a lot.  Talk calmly and always use common courtesy words such as please, thank you and welcome.  These words may seem very simple, yet they will surely increase your likability meter.

Don’t be too vain and self-centered become more likable

People say that women are the vainest creatures in the world.  True, we tend to be vain and self-centered; this is actually normal for us women!  However, we should not let ourselves become overly vain and self-centered because too much of that wouldn’t be good for us.
Becoming too vain would make us attentive of only ourselves.  We would be caught up with our own world and that could make us sound boastful or too proud of ourselves.  People usually don’t want to be with someone who only talks about herself and who doesn’t listen to others.  So if you really want to become more likable in the eyes of others, take time to listen and be attentive to them.

Have a good sense of style

Your sense of style can speak a lot for you – even before you open your mouth and utter a single word.  Let’s face it, people, most often than not, judge us according to what they see in us.   It’s really sad to say that the maxim, “Don’t judge a book by its cover” has not been faithfully embraced nowadays.
That being so, it won’t be a surprise if people simply base their first impression of you on the kind of dress that you are wearing or on your sense of style.  It’s fine if they will give you the chance to reveal your true self, but what if they won’t?  That’s why, it’s always good to have a simple and clean, but also elegant, style (and not over-the-top fashion, unless you work in the fashion industry where couture is the new day dress).  You’ll surely look more approachable and likable if you sport a fresh and clean look rather than a punk or gothic look with accessory earrings on your face and added hair spikes.

Just be yourself

Nobody wants a fake or a ‘plastic’ person.  So in talking and being with others, don’t be pretentious.  Just be your usual genuine self.  Doing this can make your actions look more natural and not forced.  Also, be honest, but remember to do this in a nice and gentle way.

Being liked by others is not difficult if you will only put a lot of effort on it.  You can be an instant Miss Congeniality if you’ll just work on improving your personality and style.  Once you are able to achieve this, not only will you become more likable, but you will also come to love and appreciate yourself more.

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.