How to Cope with Suicidal Thoughts

Four years ago, our university was rocked by news of a fresh graduate committing suicide. She graduated as a Summa Cum Laude, the only child in a middle class family, and was very active in both school and church activities. But just a few weeks after her graduation, she took her own life because of suicidal thoughts. People were very perplexed as to why such a brilliant student would commit suicide.

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And just two weeks ago, our city was once again surprised by the news of a man who jumped from the third floor of a mall. Videos of the man went viral in Facebook. Some said that the man committed suicide because his girlfriend dumped him, while some said that it’s because of his big loss from betting in the NBA finals.

No one would probably uncover the reasons why these people have committed suicide, but one thing that we know for sure is that suicide is very real. And it is very important for people to learn how to cope with this in order to avoid suicidal attempts. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, suicide was the tenth leading cause of death for all ages in 2010 and that women are more likely than men to have suicidal thoughts.

How to cope with these thoughts is actually an easy thing to do, especially if a person has a positive outlook in life. Yet for the weak-hearted, learning how to cope with suicidal thoughts may be a task that needs all their will and effort.

suicidal thoughtsHaving problems is a very normal thing.

In order to learn how to cope with suicidal thoughts, you must acknowledge that all people have problems, whether big or small. Even the richest man on earth has a problem, because having problems is a very normal thing for us human beings.

Like in Math, every problem has a corresponding solution, and it’s definitely not suicide. That’s why it’s called a problem, and not an issue, because it has concrete solutions. You may be depressed because you feel like you can’t solve it, like how you can’t find the value of x in a Mathematical problem, but once you figure out the proper equation, you’ll just find the answer right before your own eyes.

I can do this!

Learning how to cope with suicidal thoughts is also easy if you maintain a positive attitude. Sulking, worrying and over thinking won’t help solve your problem. Always remember that every cloud has a silver lining, so there’s always some hope even in the darkest situations. Be strong and believe that you can do it! Failure doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world for you; they’re just little setbacks that will give you an opportunity to improve yourself and to learn something new.

Alcohol doesn’t help.

Drowning yourself in alcohol and other depressants is not the answer on how to cope with these problems. You can’t possibly drown your problems in alcohol; they know how to swim. You might say that alcohol helps you to forget your problems, but they also make you forget your fortitude in combating suicidal thoughts. Alcohol makes you susceptible to realizing your suicidal thoughts by making you bold enough to do risky actions. 

Talk to someone.

Talking to someone is one of the best ways on how to overcome killer thoughts. It may seem like a very simple thing, but it’s definitely one of the best things to do to overcome suicidal thoughts. Keeping everything to yourself actually seems to make your problem a lot bigger or a lot worse even if it is just a simple problem in reality. But unloading your burdens and confiding to someone would make you feel better. Just by talking about our own problems and fears to someone can actually make our burdens lighter and whatever we are feeling less heavy. Actually talking to someone and saying out loud whatever is bothering you make it look easier and easy to solve. Seeking medical help and expert advice is also a great way to overcome suicidal thoughts.

Learning how to cope with suicidal thoughts may seem like a very big challenge, but with the proper attitude and the right people to support you, overcoming it would be much easier. Just remember that suicide is never an option, for human life is too precious for us to throw away. Period.

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.