Self Development By Mae Davies / October 22, 2014 There are a lot of things that can cause us to feel stressed. Seeing a relative whom you dislike at a family reunion, being kept awake at night by the sound of a leaky faucet, and taking a vacation abroad alone are a few of these things. Luckily, no matter how many there are, you can learn how to get rid of stress easily. Indeed, there are many ways to do so, likely as many as the causes for this discomfort. One of these ways is to do it mentally. Stress is basically a state of mental tension and worry caused by your problems, like tight deadlines, your rent being due, your rising credit card debt, etc. By definition, stress occurs within your mind. The causes for your problems may be tangible, and you may be feeling more awful than you’ve ever felt before, but the stress you feel is, frankly, a figment of your imagination. Hence, if you put yourself in a positive state of mind, you won’t feel stressed anymore. But we aren’t saying you can just ignore stress and hope you’ll soon feel better, as if this awful feeling would disappear if you refuse to acknowledge it. This discomfort may all be just in your head, but not dealing with it can make things worse. Stress can cause you to work poorly; withdraw from your friends, family, and acquaintances; stop doing the things you like to do, like watching a movie and having dinner out; not eat properly; feel angry, sad, and sorry for yourself all the time; and—worse—get sick. The longer you let yourself remain feeling stressed, the worse you’ll feel. The worse you feel, the more you put yourself at risk of getting sick. There’s no guarantee that you’ll feel better by just ignoring stress, just like there’s no guarantee that your problems will disappear by simply not acknowledging them. If you really want to get rid of stress, you have to do so properly. To help you, here are some examples of how to get rid of stress using your mind: Change Your Expectations No matter how much we would like our lives to be perfect, they never will be because nothing’s perfect—not anybody or anything—and nothing can ever be perfect. It’s simply not possible to be perfect. But if you expect perfection from yourself, everybody around you, your life, and everything in it all the time, you’ll always be disappointed and thus always feel stressed. You should cut yourself, everybody else, and everything some slack. By doing so, you’ll be able to accept other people’s and things’ shortcomings easily, making it less likely that you’ll feel disappointed and stressed. Don’t Take Things Personally Your boss might have made a joke about you recently that really hurt and still does. Despite how hard forgetting about it would be, you should do so and try your best not to take things personally. Not only is it likely your boss thought nothing of the joke but a quick, innocent laugh, it’s likely your problems were caused by things without any relation to you. Unfortunate events occur simply because they can. By accepting that unfortunate events are part of life, you’ll be able to deal with such events easily and thus avoid feeling stressed. Relax If there’s something you could do that is sure to stress you out, it’s being wary of everybody and everything all the time. There’s such a thing as being too careful. For example, constantly worrying that you’ll get mugged during your vacation abroad is sure to stress you out and ruin your trip. Remaining relaxed enables you to go with the flow and accept people and things easily. If you do, it’s unlikely you’ll be wary toward others and thus won’t feel stressed. Stress can be described as an enemy that will hurt you on the inside. This awful feeling can magnify your problems to such a degree that you’ll be left incapacitated, helpless, or worse. It would be best to begin learning how to get rid of stress by doing so mentally. Your mind is the best place to deal with the enemy because everything you do here can affect it. Given the 3 ways of getting rid of stress mentally, we hope to help you indeed do so.