How to Grow as a Woman After Your Divorce [Top 4 Tips]

Have you just been through a divorce? Although you may feel happy and liberated to be finally free of the marriage commitments that you no longer wanted, the period after getting divorced can be particularly challenging as well.

For many women, it can be an emotional roller coaster ride that they simply don’t want to go through alone.

And, if you’ve been married for a significant amount of time, getting used to being single all over again can be a dramatic change in your life that’s difficult to get used to. The good news is that if you allow it to, divorce can be just the thing that you need to find yourself and truly grow as a woman.

#1. Learn to Let Go

After the Stages of Grief in Divorce: Embracing the Single LifeAfter a divorce, holding onto bitterness and regrets will only prevent you from moving forward and enjoying your life from now on. Thinking ‘what if’ and ‘if only’ may be normal for a while, but it won’t serve you well or help you to feel any better.

In order to move your life forwards, it’s important to acknowledge and accept these feelings and learn from the past experiences that you have had to prepare yourself for this new and exciting chapter.

Letting go is largely emotional, but there are several physical things that you can do to help the process. Move to a new area if you can. Sell and replace any belongings that remind you of the marriage, or even let go by selling your ring.

#2. Take Ten Minutes a Day

5 Tips to Embrace Your Single Woman StatusIt is not uncommon to have feelings of grief both during and after a divorce; after all, you are going through the process of losing someone and losing the relationship that you had with them. This can be an incredibly stressful time, so keeping busy and taking time for yourself is a wise idea to help you handle the changes that you are going through.

Remember that you deserve to do something special for yourself every day, whether it’s relaxing in a luxurious bubble bath, reading a good book, watching a favorite movie or TV show, or going for a walk somewhere scenic.

Now is the time to focus on yourself and doing what makes you happy.

#3. Stay True to Yourself

5 Attitudes that can make a Woman more BeautifulIt can be all too easy to allow doubts to take over during the aftermath of a divorce.

After losing a relationship with somebody who you were once incredibly close with, it’s not uncommon to find yourself questioning what’s right, what to do, or even how you feel.

Also read: Stages of Divorce Grief [2019 Comprehensive Guide]

And, since most women find themselves in a situation where they’re suddenly hit with several new decisions to make after a divorce, it can feel even more difficult to face. Listen to your heart; what feels right? Or, if something doesn’t quite sit right for you, don’t feel that you have to rush – sometimes, waiting allows a situation to unfold without causing yourself any extra worry.

#4. Get Support

real friendshipFor many women, growing as a person and finding themselves after a divorce couldn’t be done without the help and support of those closest to them. The period of time after a divorce is a great opportunity for you to get closer to your family and friends and spend more quality time with them.

And, you can use your newfound free time to spend time enjoying your hobbies, exploring new activities, and meeting new friends.

Going through a divorce can be a very stressful and heartbreaking time, but for many women, it can also help them to grow and live their best life.

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BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.

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