The Best Ways to Improve Yourself: Remaining Calm

By Mae Davies / October 24, 2014
The Best Ways to Improve Yourself: Remaining Calm
Mst (if not all) people panic when we find ourselves in a difficult situation. There’s no shame in feeling so when we encounter a problem, for it’s just our instinctive flight-or-fight response kicking in. It would be damaging to you and your life, however, if you respond to all of your problems by panicking. Indeed, it surely isn’t one of the ways to improve yourself or your life.

Panic is defined as a feeling or state of terror that can render you not able to act or think normally. Hence, if you panic when you find yourself in a difficult situation or when you encounter a problem, you won’t be able to deal with it until you calm yourself. Once you do so, you’ll be able to act and think normally once again. When you learn how to remain calm in any difficult situation or when encountered with any problem, you’ll be able to overcome hardships with relative ease, improving yourself and your life.

We know how hard it is to remain calm at the face of hardship, so here are some tips for how to remain calm when in a difficult situation or when encountered with a problem: improve yourself

Don’t magnify the situation or problem

More often than not, we see hardships as worse than they really are. For instance, no matter how bad you felt after your boyfriend left you, you didn’t die. Magnifying your problems does nothing but make yourself feel even more awful. The worse you feel, the harder it will be to deal with your problem and feel good once again.

Accept that experiencing hardship is an unavoidable part of life

No matter how much we would like our lives to be perfect, they never will be because nothing is perfect. Hence, experiencing hardship is just part of the journey. If you accept this, it’s likely you won’t feel as if the rug has been pulled from under you when you find yourself in a difficult situation or when you encounter a problem, enabling you to deal with it calmly and successfully.

Adjust to change

Another way that you won’t feel blindsided by hardship is by learning how best to adjust to change. It’s said that there’s nothing permanent except change, so it would be unrealistic for you to assume that your life will forever remain the way it is now. If you still feel so, it’s likely you’ll panic every time someone or something in your life changes, causing significant adverse effects to your overall well-being.

There’s no way that you can avoid difficult situations or problems. But you can deal with them. In order to do so, you have to remain calm. Keeping your cool even at the face of hardship improves your chances at overcoming it. Always remaining calm at the face of any hardship will make you an even better person, enabling yourself to improve yourself and your life. Given the tips for learning the ways to improve yourself and your life starting with remaining calm as often as possible, we hope to help you do so.

About the author

Mae Davies

BA, MA Psychology (and Conflict Resolution), University of Cambridge (2007). With a decade of trial and error in psychology and 33 years of navigating my own complex (that's one word for it!) relationships with family, friends, co-workers and men, I hope I have some useful knowledge and skills to share with my readers about making sense of relationships and trying to become a better person every day.