Dating Self Development By Erin Lane / February 20, 2016 When it comes to unhealthy relationships, the focus is often on taking the first step in ending the relationship and leaving the abusive partner. The importance of putting the right amount of attention to what they should do after is often forgotten. This is the reason why there are a lot of women who find it hard to move on after being in such a relationship. To avoid this problem, women should know how to get over these types of relationships even before knowing the steps to get out of one, as this will also serve as a motivation to end the relationship. Here are some tips for women on how to get over unhealthy relationships: Re-assess your self-worth More often than not, abusive partners focus on the flaws of his or her partner in order to make the partner stay in the relationship. In doing so, they can make their partners feel like they are not worthy enough to be loved by anybody else when in reality, they have more positive traits than they can imagine. By re-assessing your self-worth, you will be able to see these traits and realize that you are a catch and that you are too good to be in an abusive relationship. You will also realize that unhealthy relationships are not a common occurrence, that your partner does not deserve you, and that you totally deserve someone who’s a lot better than him. Don’t ponder on the time that you have wasted Considering that many abusive or unhealthy relationships can last for years, there are a lot of those who think that they should not leave their relationship since they have invested too much time and effort into the whole thing. Once the relationship ends, they may also feel like it is too late for them to find a new partner since so much time has already passed. To avoid pondering this thought, always remind yourself of the advantages of leaving or ending the abusive relationship. Look forward to being free. Embrace the idea of being single once again and look forward to the advantages and opportunities that may come along with it. This will make it easier for you to see that the time that you have wasted on the relationship is greatly outweighed by the positives. Find your identity Another way that abusive partners manipulate people into staying in the relationship is by stripping away their partner’s identity. They can manipulate people into being anti-social by cutting any form of connection that they have with their friends and family. They can also make people change their behavior in order to make them submissive and doubtful of themselves. By finding your identity once you have gotten out of an unhealthy relationship, you will become independent and you will stop thinking that you are nothing without your abusive partner. Find time for yourself or embark on some soul searching; you’ll regain your confidence and belief in your self-worth along the way. All of these tips can help you move on from an unhealthy relationship. However, your success still depends on your ownwillpower and determination. Always remember that these tips can only get you so far. You should still work on your post-relationship issues as hard as you can.