Dating Self Development By Erin Lane / May 7, 2016 One of the most common reasons why many people refrain from entering a new relationship, especially with a person they have never met before, is because it can be harder to find out if these people are cheaters or not. Hence, they tend to say no to every new relationship that comes their way. What they do not realize is that by doing so, they are also turning down relationships that can actually work. To avoid this mishap, all you need to do is learn how to identify a cheater so that you can end the relationship as soon as possible. Here are some tips on how to identify a cheater. Secrecy is your partner’s best policy It is normal for people to not open up about family drama or financial strife and other problems during the first few weeks or months of a new relationship since they are still unsure if their new partner is willing to sit through it all. However, having the need to keep his or her workplace, friends, and the places where he or she frequents a secret should be considered a red flag. This is because most cheaters lead double lives in which they may live out the other, adulterous life through their friends, co-workers, or strangers they meet in the places where they like to go. Your partner likes to dress up for some unknown reason During the first few weeks of a new relationship, couples are expected to look their best on both sides since they are still trying to impress each other. If your new partner has the tendency to dress-down on most of your dates and then dress up even if you are not going anywhere fancy, he or she might be a cheater. Most often than not, cheaters take their serious relationships for granted and would rather exert minimal effort in order to impress their partner, especially if their partner is madly in love with them, than to make the effort to actually look good. When going on dates with the other man or woman though, these people like to go all out in the looks department. Your partner is paranoid about cheating A lot of cheaters find themselves projecting their guilt through their partners by assuming that their partners are cheating on them as well. This is the reason why notorious cheaters and playboys are known for being the jealous and possessive type. If you find that your partner is excessively aggressive to your friends or any other person who tries to build a platonic relationship with you, you should consider having an open conversation regarding the issue in order to find out where his or her jealousy is coming from. By keeping these tips in mind, you can learn how to identify cheaters in the quickest time possible, which will allow you to move on from a bad relationship to a new one, which will give you the security that you need. Keeping these tips in mind will also allow you to help your friends and loved ones who are entering a new relationship.