The Art of Flirting: 5 Tips to Get What You Want

Now ladies, I know you’ve done it before.  You can admit it.  There’s no shame in flirting a little just to get what you want.

I must say, most women really do have a natural talent for being playful just to lure their target into giving in, but for the other majority of women who’ve no clue on how to flirt, there’s still hope to master the art of flirting.

Here are 5 tips to get what you want and some great examples of flirting.

1. Smile

A simple smile can make a person look a whole lot more attractive than they really are, so why not smile more often?  When you want to get on a man’s good side, you’ve to smile; smile when you see them, smile while they’re talking to you, and keep that smile while you’re speaking to them.  Your face will probably start to hurt, but come on! You’re doing this to get what you want, so just suck it up and keep smiling! the art of flirting

2. Eye Contact

They say the eyes are the windows to one’s soul; well, when it comes to the art of flirting, the eyes are a silent way to communicate with the opposite sex.  Frequent eye contact can make your target feel wanted and important, which will make them feel drawn to you.

The more you communicate with them through frequent eye contact, the better chance they will gladly hand to you whatever favor you ask from them. Yes, intense eye contact is a sure example of flirting.

3. Physical Contact

A little physical contact won’t hurt, only if you don’t cross the line.  The art of flirting using physical contact includes slightly touching their shoulder when they say something funny, pretending like you’re shrugging something dirty off from his shirt, or trying to fix his tie or collar for the sake of incorporating a little physical contact in order to bring the flirting up to another level.

4. Sense of Humor

In order to really become successful in flirting, one must know how to make the male species laugh by telling simple jokes or knowing how to execute something humorous – believe me, laughter when flirting is a big sign that you’re doing a good job.  Humor brings people together and when you make people laugh, they will feel like they are making a connection with you, which will result in getting what you want.

5. Compliments Are Accepted

Who doesn’t like receiving compliments? I mean that’s what keeps some women on their toes every day at work, right?  Compliments make a person feel special and feel out of the ordinary; that is why a simple compliment will automatically melt the heart of your target.

Complimenting about their new haircut, new tie, new suit, or just how you enjoy their company or their humor will mean the world to them – this gesture will greatly make your target feel like they owe you something just because you acknowledge something about them.

Whether you’re flirting to get a good deal on something that you want to purchase, getting that last ticket to the baseball game, or to get good seats at the concert, whatever you do, please practice the art of flirting so that you can learn the playful way to get what you want without exerting too much effort; just you, some self-confidence, and a whole lot of attitude.

Top 5 tips on How to Deliver The Best Flirty One LinersWhen it comes to succeeding in life and in relationships, there’s no shame in being a tease to get what you need. It doesn’t help, however, that most of our cultural references imply that women must possess this incredible ability to captivate men.

So, while some of us have this amazing inherent skill to captivate any kind of audience with simple and exciting flirting, most of women actually have no idea about how to flirt and tease a little.

Thankfully, cultural references are wrong about so many things, chances are they are wrong about this.

So let’s assume we can learn to flirt. There’s no harm in trying, is there? You can then apply your newly acquired skillset on this website – it’s an online website with a flirty name.

Here are 5 ideas to start practicing

Look him straight in the eyes

They say the eyes are the windows to one’s soul. With when it comes to flirting the eyes are one of your best weapons. They can speak about all things romance, so that you don’t have to.

Prolonged eye contact is a universally understood sign of sexual attraction.

But if you’re after just a little fun, go ahead and try intermittent eye contact instead. This will make your guy feel interesting, needed and most importantly admired, which will result in him feeling attracted to you.

Try not to overdo it, don’t stare at the guy. Look way when you get a little smile in return – signal that he noticed your nonverbal signal of attraction. He’ll be ready to relax and have good time with you after that.

Now return his smile

Smiling is there to show how good we feel in a moment. So as soon as you see his smile, seize that moment and return a smile.

A good, happy smile makes us look so much more beautiful. People are always attracted to happy people who smile and laugh freely and frequently. It’s a good reason to smile more in general, but more importantly when you meet a guy you like as this website points out.

The same as with an eye contact, try to smile frequently in response to your conversation. Show the guy that you like what he is saying, make him feel he has got your full attention.

Add a few jokes to put him at ease

Now that you’ve got each other in a nice happy place, remember that you can even make him laugh. More often than not men are put under a lot of pressure to be exciting and make make women laugh. Shake things up a little by saying a joke about his comments or a story – don’t take yourself too seriously, perhaps even make a joke or two about yourself.

He won’t even notice what made him feel so good during your conversation, but he will absolutely remember that feeling of being at ease and simply being happy.

Also read: Flirty One-Liners To Say To A Guy [Top List For 2019]

Laughing together is one of the most intimate experiences people have. Laugher and humor bring us closer, they create some sort of mini universe for the people ‘in on a joke’. Use this wisely.

In today’s world – these are truly priceless memories, he will know how to find you again to try and re-live those moments again, and again, and again.

Surprise him with some compliments

We all long to be noticed and singled out for some good reasons. I believe that is why the word ‘special’ has been overused recently. With a number of billions of people populating this planet constantly rising it feels harder and harder to feel like somebody cares or appreciates you.

If you like receiving compliments, try giving some to you guy. Chances are he isn’t expecting it and will be very happy to hear something nice and clever about himself (who wouldn’t!).

But avoid generic compliments about his appearance, they seem cheesy and banal. Instead listen carefully to his stories and show him how well he manages to hold the best part a surprise all the way till the end, how he makes you laugh or how eloquent he is.

Introduce some accidental touch

After an hour of chatting, sitting close to each other, exchanging compliments and joke you might find yourselves feeling much closer to each other very quickly.

Be careful not to cross the line, but a gentle touch on a hand during a particularly funny story or a tap on a shoulder when he says something sarcastic – are perfect opportunities to introduce socially accepted intimacy of a friendly touch.

you can also encourage some touch by putting your hand very close to his, or moving slightly closer – because it’s obviously so loud and you simply can’t hear him very well.

You might not succeed the first or even the fifth time, but if you keep practicing eventually it flirting will become a second nature to you and you’ll truly give in to this ancient art of non-verbal communication so cherished by our species.

flirty one linersIf you ever tried flirting in a bar or a club, or at the table visiting your friends for dinner, you know that it’s an art requiring a lot of thought, practice and walking on egg shells. Although it depends on what men you find attractive, of course.

If men you’re naturally drawn to also attract a lot of other girls’ eyes, then the game can be tough.

However, thanks to online dating awkwardness of making the first step is somewhat limited, so online is a very good place to practice and test a few techniques which you can then take off line to that much anticipated dinner at your friends’.

In our digital age, here are some simple tips to help you upgrade your online flirting game.

Start with a funny message

It can be anything, but the best way to approach it’s by looking carefully at his profile. Did he share any embarrassing stories you could want to learn more about? Did he have an interesting set up on the background of his profile photo? Did he opt out for a plain, no text profile all together?

Before you stress about having to make a joke that isn’t offensive or lame look for things that aren’t there – by making a funny pokey comment about something that he didn’t have on his profile you won’t come across as offensive and, more importantly, open up a window of conversation opportunity.

You could also send a comment on how his profile made you notice it, and then finish with a funny self-reflection. Again, this will help the guy respond with a kind and potentially flirtatious message, and you’ll definitely know that he at least cares!

Find something in common with him and use it

Using his profile to find something you’ve in common, will instantly break the ice and make you two connect better. But remember that it won’t be enough to just state the obvious hobby interests that are the same.

You’ll need a bit more creativity. Find something you did that he mentions in his profile. Ideally, dig out a photo of you doing the said activity (as long as it’s appropriate) and add it to your own profile before messaging him. If you look great on the pic you’ll be guaranteed a positive response.

Ask to have a chat on Facebook

As a woman, you need to be cautious about the guys you meet online – no news here, of course. Asking to exchange your Facebook details is a good way to see who the guy is outside his dating profile. You might even find that you’ve friends in common.

If he is in his mid twenties and over chances are he has a very useful Facebook profile – it’ll hold memories and stories all the way from high school, through his college years and early career. You can e-meet his family and close friends through tagged photos and see what kind of a guy he is by looking at the posts he shared over the years.

If you spot red flags – go with your gut and abandon hope he could still turn out right for you because he is so cute! No. Never happens. If you see things you don’t like about him on a profile he shares with everybody in his life, chances are super slim that he would be a good fit for you. Check here for more info on this topic.

But you might browse around his friends’ profiles and if you see someone you like, you could send them that funny first message.

Don’t forget to arrange that date

You most likely won’t need to go for the full on asking him to a date, if he likes you, he will probably ask you out first. But if he doesn’t, suggesting to grab a beer after work in a mid-way location between your work places, or meeting for a coffee at lunch time in a weekend.

Try finding a coffee shot close to your best friend’s place to see her afterwards to share your experience – good or bad, she will be there for you. Hang on to that thought, it’ll help you stay relaxed and confident (you best moral support is just around the corner!) on the date, helping you to seal the deal with the guy if you like him in real life. Happy people are more attractive, so don’t hold back on your laughter!

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I'm a Dating Senior Writer at Independent Femme. I'm famously indecisive and love to write about love, marriage, and making the world a better place for healthy and sparkling relationships!

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